Do You Have A Fantasy?

Sexuality Today ...

Not looking for love, but hoping to fulfill a long-time fantasy? Why not check out those adult dating websites online. They offer a way to connect with other people locally who want to hook up for a night, or perhaps a little longer, but are not searching for a serious relationship.

Many paid dating sites are out there just waiting for you to join the millions of others who are looking for a quick fling with no attachment between you and them. With a paid subscription, you can receive many benefits that you would not get when joining a free adult site. But why, you may be asking, not free sites?

Well, first the old adage that you get what you pay for still holds true. Secondly, adult dating tends to pull a huge crowd, with curiosity seekers making a huge chunk of it. You want to meet serious, like-minded people who are seeking to fulfill the same needs as you are. These serious types are to be found on paid adult dating websites. That they are coughing up a monthly fee is enough proof of their seriousness.

In addition, paid dating sites offer many more useful features and options to enhance your adult dating experience. Options you may enjoy can include more pictures, videos, and chats with other members and several other things. It's never been so easy to find a "quickie" as this; just turning on your computer and locating the right adult web page could lead to a lot of fun for you, and another person!

The advanced searches provided give you a chance to narrow down your search to age, income, heritage and several other things. Whatever makes you happy. It will all depend, again, on which adult dating website you decide to join.

Females looking for females, males looking for males, couples looking for couple, the good old one-night stand, or even people who are hoping to find someone who is kinky and experience something new. This industry is one that is huge and there are plenty of great choices for you when you look online.

Before you join a site make sure that you check out how long they have been around, how many active members there are, and how often members sign on. This does not mean that a new site is no good, but it is a safer bet to go with an older one. Many adult dating websites will give you a chance to try them for free, or with limited benefits until you pay for a subscription.

With the free trial, you will be able to search around and find a person you might want to meet, and even contact them. Don't limit yourself to just one site though, open a few and add your profile. This is why a free trial is such a good thing. Take full advantage of it. Post good adult personal profiles, and make sure to make them as exciting as you can. Excitement is the name of the game when it comes to adult personals.

With those ads you will be able to let others know just what you are looking for and how often you may want to play. Swingers, husbands and wives who may be looking for an additional partner or even someone who just wants to learn a bit more about something off the wall. You can find it all when you look to adult dating websites.

Reference by : David_N_Kamau

Turn On a Woman Sexually

Sexuality Today ...

Turning on a woman sexually is something that all straight men want to be able to do. And sometimes we trick ourselves into believing that we know how to do this without ever really thinking too deeply on it. The problem with that is, it's not always true. See, most guys learn what they know about turning on a woman from the worst sources. They learn from buddies who know about as much as they do. They learn from movies that are set up to appeal to what guys want to see... not to what really works to turn on a woman.

So, the uncomfortable reality is... most men are not as skilled at turning on a woman sexually as they like to think they are. And what is the reality of not being able to turn on a woman sexually? I think you know the answer to this one. You either won't get nearly as much action as you want or you might end up losing a woman you are dating just because she is not getting the pleasure and satisfaction that she desires from you.

Either way... You LOSE!

Here's a little advice on how to turn a woman on sexually:

1. She does not get turned on by the same things that get you going.

If you take away one tidbit from this article, this should be it. Women don't get turned on by all of the same stuff that men do. So, if you approach trying to turn her on and you do it using techniques and methods that get you going, there is a really good chance that it's NOT doing the trick. You want to really be able to get that chiseled into your mind and make sure that it stays there.

2. The environment plays a big role for her.

One really stark difference that applies to almost all women you are going to meet is... the environment does play a huge role in whether she gets turned on or not. If she is in an environment that she does not quite feel comfortable in, then chances are, it's not going to be a good place to try and get her turned on. For this, you have to get a good feel for her personality, because not every woman likes the same environment. Some are more adventurous than others.

3. Conversation leads to stimulation.

Both men and women can get really turned on by conversation, but for women, it takes a little more than it does for a guy. A woman could just flat out say the words... "I want you" and that would probably be more than enough to get you turned on, right? Well, for most women, you need more than three words. You need to be descriptive and creative. You need to kind of set up an image in her mind, something that she can feel and see.

Reference by : Chris_Tyler

 

The Truths About Sex In A Relationship

Almost everyone admits that after 10 years of marriage, trying to stay passionate to each other is never easy. No one can always act adoring or keep up an air of mystery while sharing the same space with his or her spouse year after year. Here are the truths about sex for most married couples.

(1) Love can last but passion needs regular charging

Some people do not need to reach the 7-year itch, because lust fades away as fast as the firework display. Especially for guys after marriage, they refocus their attention on career at the expense of their love lives, feeling that they have already their objectives in their love lives. When people stop trying to impress their partners, passion definitely goes downhill.

(2) Being complacent is never sexy

Couples who can stay emotionally connected to each other share many great moments and fond memories. They also pay special attention to creating those magical ones because great sex requires magic. It is only after you exercise some creativity and make an effort to reignite romance that you can both have a strong marriage and a good sex life.

(3) Greater intimacy does not necessary lead to stronger passion

Intimacy means willing to share each other's thoughts and feelings. Every relationship needs intimacy to flourish. However when we get to the point of knowing each other too well, predictably sets in and this can hurt passion in the long run.

(4) Becoming parents do not lead to better sex

After marrying for many years, people tend to look upon their spouses as their kids' father or mother more than regarding them as lovers as what they did when they initially met. When this happens, passion in bed definitely ebbs. Also the time invests in caring and nurturing kids can at times makes the husband feels neglected.

(5) You may be the last person in the world to know what turns him on

Guys tend not to reveal everything about themselves because it can make them look weak. That is why what moves us sexually is usually one of our most closely guarded secrets. Though greater intimacy does not necessary lead to greater sex but without intimacy, passionate lovemaking is impossible.

How to maintain the passion in marriage sex

(1) Do not assume you know everything about what pleases your spouse sexually

It is common for a husband and wife to be together for many years without each knowing what can please their spouse in bed. This can be due to out of embarrassment or being afraid to be seen as weird or selfish, in talking about it.

(2) Sharing each other's fantasies in an emotionally safe way

You can encourage your husband to slowly reveal aspects of his sexuality. You can say something like, "I have some craziest erotic ideas. Why not tell me something that you think will surprise me about how we can spice up our sex lives? I will promise to tell you something in return that will surprise you as well." Saying it in this way means you are willing to listen to something unexpected and can encourage your husband to be open. If saying out loud is still too embarrassing, encourage him to put his thoughts in words.

(3) Make sex more fun

You both can take turns to act out one of more of each other's sexual fantasies. Being playful can energize the feelings of each other.

(4) Offering examples

Encourage him to be more open about his real fantasies by saying something like, "What really excites you - being tied up and blindfolded, pretending I am someone else, you name it."

(5) Doing something different

Dress to impress each other. A different style of clothing or different hairstyle can trigger new feelings of each other.

Reference by : Eng_Hou_Ng

 

How To Meet The Right Couple For Swinging

Would you like to try the swinging lifestyle? Once you have made the decision to give it a try, the biggest hurdle to overcome is to find another suitable couple to play with. Fortunately you can benefit from the experience of others by knowing the best way to find other people. Here are some ideas to help you.

Firstly, be aware it can be a lengthy process. You may end up chatting with a large number of couples before you find one you really click with. This is hardly surprising; it is difficult enough to find two people who are attracted to each other, but to find four who all share some chemistry can seem nigh-on impossible.

You will meet couples who may be interested in you but who for whatever reason you don't feel particularly attracted to. Don't be concerned about this - it really does go with the territory.

Also, do not despair or be in a rush to start playing once you decide you and your partner would like to be swingers. Many people decide to play with the first people who come along and find that the experience is not really very pleasurable. In fact it can be a disaster.

All this said, what is the best way to meet another couple for swinging. There are in fact three ways.

The first way is to consider people you already know. You may think your friends would not be interested in swinging, but swinging is surprisingly widespread. Do not discount your friends! Think about who you already know who you find attractive. Invite them for dinner and drop a few subtle hints. Lead the conversation in a sexual direction and see their reaction. Of course if you get a negative reaction you know to back off as you don't want to destroy your friendship.

The second way and probably the most widespread is to meet couples through an online swingers website. There are a number of good ones which have large numbers of couples (and singles) who are swingers and are looking to meet other likeminded people. You can get a very good idea about them from the information they post online, including their interests and physical characteristics. Usually they will (or should) put up some photographs so you can get a better idea of their body shape and sizes.

To do this you should also put up your own details by creating a profile. This will allow other couples to contact you if they are interested. The first step will be to have some brief message exchange to see if there is some connection. If it all looks promising, you should try to meet as soon as possible. This should only be for the purposes of checking each other out. Unless you are not fussy at all you will find this an essential step as despite all the online conversation in the world you will not know if you all click until you meet each other.

The third way you can meet other swingers is to go to a swingers party. Getting invited to these can be quite tricky. However, swingers websites often list parties. Choose one in your area and put your name down as being interested. If you go to a swingers party remember the golden rule amongst all swingers is "no means no". You will not be pressured into doing anything you don't want to, and no one will mind if you decline an invitation to play. Swingers parties are a very good way to meet a number of couples all at once to see if you feel a special connection with any of them.

Reference by : Michael_J_Andrews

 

Performance Tuning Your Penile-Vaginal Internal Combustion Engine for Insanely High Performance Sex

Interestingly enough, we can look at the sexual interface between a man and a woman and relate this to the workings of an internal combustion engine. Using some simple methods, it's rather easy to performance tune both the man and the woman to get the most sexual horsepower (pleasure) out of penile-vaginal sex.

Think of the man's penile head as the piston, and his penile shaft as the connecting rod. His "rod" is then connected to his pelvis, which acts as the crank.

Her vagina, thus, becomes the cylinder in which this connecting rod/piston interacts with. Now, how can we improve the peak sexual performance of this engine?

Lubrication - Lubrication is paramount to an engine surviving and working properly. Lubrication decreases friction and makes for a smoother running engine. So, we must take your engine's lubrication very seriously. The best way to help getting the engine lubed is to engage in foreplay. Cunnilingus is a great way to ensure proper lubrication is utilized before you really start to rev the engine. If lubrication is a problem, perhaps because of a weak oil pump, specialized lubricants can be purchased that will ensure that the entire engine is properly lubricated and will run at peak efficiency and performance.

While your engine is running, stimulation to the clitoris and erogenous areas of the body will ensure lubrication remains fluid and constant. Talking dirty is another method that helps some engines see better lubrication.

Bulletproof Components - Oral sex is another method, in this case, fellatio, that will ensure that the man's crank, connecting rod, and piston are strong and reliable. A weak connecting rod will result in a poor-running engine and may result in sexual failure. Fellatio is the mechanism that can help ensure that a man's parts are up to it. Other methods, such as kinky add-ons, can also ensure his sexual system is bulletproof and up to the task.

SPM - Strokes per Minute will replace Revolutions per Minute (RPMs). This is very important, especially for the lead foot, in relation to properly lubricated components. A man shouldn't start off doing 100 SPMs, as it's better to ensure proper lubrication (which will further be stimulated during the SPM curve). So, starting off at a lower SPM range and "breaking" in the engine first, will ensure that both of you can go the distance. Once the engine has warmed up and is running smoothly, then the SPMs can be increased.

Timing - Timing relates to both SPMs and the environment. From an environmental standpoint, don't go looking to go racing, if you or your partner isn't interested. It's best to go for a spin when the conditions are "just right" for the both of you.

With relation to SPMs, there are a lot of factors to take into consideration. On some days it's best to use a different SPM range than on other days. This may be due to decreased lubrication, a sore piston, or worn cylinder. Make a note of what Timing Cycle is best during your day at the track. Monitoring your partner's response, will also help you decide when to slow down on the SPMs, or speed them up, to ensure the ultimate in performance and response from both partners. Both partners should make a conscious effort to "feel" what the right SPM range is for your partner at any given moment and do your best to keep in "time" together.

Beefing up the Suspension for the Right Track - Different race tracks require performance-tuning the suspension to get the utmost out of the racing experience. Beefing up the suspension with pillows, different positioning of the motor mounts, and ensuring the springs on your test "bed" are up to the task is a great way to ensure you both come in first place and cross the finish line together.

Self-Tuning - Men can improve their performance by getting in shape, eating right, and learning what really gets her internal components to sing. Enlarging a man's penis, increasing his stamina, and learning the tricks to get the most out of his engine will ensure an engine that runs at its performance peak, any time of the day or night.

Women, too, can accentuate their performance by getting in shape, having a healthy diet, and figuring out what really gets his engine singing. Kegel exercises are one way in which she can strengthen her cylinder to ensure the ultimate sexual compression ratio is maintained, especially at those high SPMs.

By learning some of these simple procedures, it's quite possible for a loving couple to create the ultimate in sexual horsepower, orgasmic torque, and mind-bending sexual performance.

Reference by : Georg_Von_Neumann

 

When Enough Sex Is Not Enough

What can cause the differences in sex drive in a relationship? How to cope when your partner wants more or less sex than you? Read on!

What causes different sex drives?

(1) Relationship problems

This can be due to differences on matters such as who should contribute more to household expenses and who should pay for which item, child rearing and relationship with in-laws. When couples cannot resolve conflicts over these matters, one of them will bear a grudge against the other one. This pent-up anger can cause the aggrieved side to lose sexual interest on his/her partner. This can also lead to him/her to withhold sex to punish his/her partner.

(2) Inadequate knowledge about sex

If one or both of you are raised in societies where there is no sex education or where sex is a taboo topic being negatively viewed as something dirty or immoral, this can prevent you from looking for ways to enrich and spice up your sex life. You or your spouse may think that sex is meant only for procreation and cannot see any connection between sex and pleasure.

(3) Psychological issues

Stress over work or child rearing, performance anxiety, lack of sexual confidence, past histories of sexual abuse, physical or mental ailments, drug abuse, medication (drugs such as those prescribe for hypertension can hurt sexual desire) leaving either one of you to lose interest in sex.

(4) Differences in the way you and your spouse look at sex

You and your partner may have different baseline sex drives and/or may prioritize sex differently. This may not be any serious relationship problems, only mere differences in the way how each side thinks about sex.

(5) Not enough passion

Absence makes the heart grows fonder. Not giving enough space to each other in daily life, with both sides sticking to each other like a piece of chewing gum can be stifling and hurt passion in the long run. The pressures and expectations we put on our intimate relationships may kill the passion in lovemaking.

How to cope with different level of sexual desire?

(1) Avoid blaming your partner

It is always very easy to blame others when problems crop up. This can only cause your spouse to get defensive and discourage him/her from working together with you to come up with solutions. Even if you feel most of the problems lie with your partner, it is better to find out what are the causes and how they arise.

(2) Talking to your partner

When relationship problems surface, it is best to find the space and time to talk to your partner. If you do not talk to your partner, you will not be able to discover the roots of the problems and he/she may not be aware of the existence of problems or your concerns. Before talking to your spouse, make sure you think before you talk, avoid putting the blame on him/her, begin your statements with "I" such as, "I think....." or "I am concern about........" and always remember to listen. However if the situation deteriorates to the point where both of you cannot talk to each other without ending up in arguments, you will have to find a counselor or therapist.

(3) Working towards a compromise

It is very unrealistic to expect everything to go according to the way you want. A relationship is a series of constant adjustment to each other and involving a lot of give and take. Finding sexual compromise is much easier when you lay down all the options on the table for both sides to work out the differences in sexual desire.

(4) Looking for self-help resources

There are many books you can find in book shops, libraries or online that touch on issues like sex drive discrepancies in a long-term relationship. Some of them may have titles such as Dealing With A Sexless Marriage. This is a viable option before you consider seeing a counselor or a family therapist.

Reference by : Eng_Hou_Ng

 

How to Make Her Orgasm in the Crab Sex Position

Stand up and stretch a little before you read this article because what I am about to tell you is going to absolutely change your sex life for the better in a variety of different ways.

Odds are you are reading this because you are interested in learning how to make her orgasm in the crab sex position. Of course the "her" we are more than likely referring about is the woman that you are with who is either your girlfriend, wife or soon to be.

Hopefully by now you have already stood up and stretch a little so let us move on to discovering how to make her orgasm in the Crab Sex Position and more.

How to Make Her Orgasm in the Crab Sex Position

Now imagine that you're in the Crab Sex Position, do you know what she is going to enjoy the most about this position?

Believe it or not, what women like the most about this position is the incredible amount of G-Spot stimulation that she is able to feel.

And since we are on the subject of G-Spot stimulation do you know what will allow her to feel even more pleasure in regards to her G-Spot?

That's right you guessed it, if you have a bigger and thicker penis than average then she is going to feel her G-Spot being stimulated even more and if you have a smaller than average penis you will be glad to know that there are a variety of different penis enlargement pills and devices on the market that will help you enlarge your penis.

However, before you begin to consider which penis enlargement pill you should choose in order to enlarge your penis you should also know that when it comes to making her orgasm, stimulating her clitoris is one of the most effective ways to do so and any penis size can bring her to orgasmic bliss that way in fact you don't even need a penis at all to make her orgasm that way as simply using your tongue or fingers can do the trick as well.

In any case, in regards to the Crab Sex Position the most effective way to get into this sex pose is going to be by sitting up with your legs straight so that she can then sit on top of you with her legs on your shoulders and arms for support. Once she has gotten into this position she will lie back with her legs on either side of you as she puts her hands on your knees.

As stated earlier, women love the Crab Sex Position because of the enhanced G-Spot stimulation that they are able to feel. Unfortunately as you probably have already begun to notice you aren't able to effectively stimulate her clitoris in this position which means that you are going to want to allow her to experience a couple of clitoral orgasms beforehand so that her g-spot can become even more sensitive.

What many people don't realize is that while the G-Spot offers a woman a different kind of climax and orgasmic experience in the majority of cases it is also a whole lot less sensitive to stimulation than the clitoris. What this means is that if you don't take the time to get her more sensitive to your touch by giving her a few clitoral orgasms you can end up getting in this position yet her not experiencing any of the orgasmic bliss that awaits because her body isn't sensitive enough to feel it yet.

In the end, no matter what your penis size may be, if you don't get her highly aroused and sensitive through a variety of different foreplay techniques and clitoral stimulation you wont be able to make her orgasm in the Crab Sex Position.

Reference by : Ben_Teats