Clueless whether you're doing it right in the bed room? Skip the porn and start reading women's magazines instead. It is the next best thing to listening in on their girl talk (when they are talking about sex, that is).
Also, skip the macho act. Casanova is way more popular with the ladies than the Incredible Hulk.
Here are some basic tips to be an amazing lover.
Hygiene
It is true that men have a distinct smell that turn women on. These distinct smells carry sex pheromones that attract a mate. Although sex pheromones may be released in sweat, most women do not appreciate a dirty and sweaty man. Yes, male sweat can smell sexy for some women. But just to clarify, it is clean sweat that can smell good... sweat does not remain clean the whole day. Stale sweat is nothing short of disgusting. Take a nice shower and make sure you wash thoroughly down there. Guys have no idea how funky it gets down there if not washed properly.
Don't forget to brush your teeth too.
Manners
As in real life, manners as well as finesse are well appreciated in bed. Make sure you attend to her every need and every body part. Be sensitive to her reactions so you know you are doing it right. Be sensitive to even the little things. For example, during fellatio, unless you are both into rough sex, do not shove your penis roughly in her mouth while holding the sides of her head.
There is a gag reflex at the back of the mouth and it is far from pleasant when it is irritated. Most of the time, when she is giving you oral sex and she looks up with that teary look in her eyes, that is not from pleasure but from the unexpected thrust that you just did.
Do not rush and zero in on her vagina and hasten into intercourse and worst, doze off right after. Make foreplay nice and long because women take longer to climax. And the golden rule, live by the saying: "Ladies First".
Be creative but also realistic
Experimenting is nice and keeps the excitement in the bedroom. It is understandable that you want to try out different positions as well as methods.
When trying out positions, do not keep switching from one position to the next like you are in a sex marathon and you are on a race to try as many positions in the shortest span of time. This can be highly off-putting and women often get turned off by this. If there is something that feels good, stick to it for a while unless she indicates (verbally or through body language) that she is ready to try another one.
If there is something you want to try, like BDSM, make sure you ask her first and that she is comfortable with it especially if you will be incorporating foreign objects.
Lubrication
The more lubrication, the better the experience always is. Try warming or cooling lubricants for an intense experience.
Although women generally appreciate a guy who can hold his orgasm and can go on for a long time, going at it for hours without climaxing can make your (yours and hers) genitals sore and even scratched which makes it burn when you pee. Do not force it and just stop. It is just as well as she may be praying in her mind that you get it over with so you guys can order some Chinese Take-out.
A break, some rest and some food is often the best solution to this problem.
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