Romance Ideas To Spark That Passion

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If you are looking for a new way to tease your lover in a romantic way, it might be a good time to have a romantic night in. Brainstorming about adult romance ideas can be tough, but it also can be rewarding. Not able to come up with any romantic night ideas, or any bedroom romance possibilities? Try out some of the following new adult romance ideas to help bring passion into your life.

Drop some candies in a trail leading to the bedroom, with a note attached mentioning a super sweet treat waiting at the end of the candy trail. Add a little bit of whipped cream, some cherries, and you will have a romantic adult dessert that your lover will adore.

If you haven't already, go on a shopping spree at a sex shop, and try out your new toys once you arrive at back at your home. Indulge in everything from sexy outfits, to videos, to new handbooks full of sex tips, to more unconventional and kinky toys.

For wild couples, why not attend a nudist event? The laid back atmosphere, along with the sight of your lover's naked body all day long is sure to please you. For the most romantic atmospheres, make an effort to look for secluded beaches, deserts, and forests near you.

Did you know that it is scientifically proven that the smell of a partner's sweat will turn you on? Join a gym for the healthiest kind of foreplay around. This might not sound like an adult romance idea, but after watching your beloved work out, you'll beg to differ.

One longtime favorite adult romance idea of many couples is to play dress up for an exciting sexual escapade. Buy a sexy costume, and become your partner's fantasy tonight!

Ever wonder what it feels like to be a model? Spice up your bedroom romance by having your own personal photo shoot. Take turns with your partner taking erotic photos of each other, and then admire them later.

The Japanese Yakuza came up with an erotic way to spice up a sushi dinner - by eating it off a beautiful woman. This is a great way to enjoy your lover's beautiful body.

Overall, the key to a great adult romance idea is to combine fantasy with reality. Adding a twist to the daily humdrum is all you need to do in order to have a romantic night you won't soon forget.

Reference by : Jane_L

 

Truths About Sex In A Relationship

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Almost everyone admits that after 10 years of marriage, trying to stay passionate to each other is never easy. No one can always act adoring or keep up an air of mystery while sharing the same space with his or her spouse year after year. Here are the truths about sex for most married couples.

(1) Love can last but passion needs regular charging

Some people do not need to reach the 7-year itch, because lust fades away as fast as the firework display. Especially for guys after marriage, they refocus their attention on career at the expense of their love lives, feeling that they have already their objectives in their love lives. When people stop trying to impress their partners, passion definitely goes downhill.

(2) Being complacent is never sexy

Couples who can stay emotionally connected to each other share many great moments and fond memories. They also pay special attention to creating those magical ones because great sex requires magic. It is only after you exercise some creativity and make an effort to reignite romance that you can both have a strong marriage and a good sex life.

(3) Greater intimacy does not necessary lead to stronger passion

Intimacy means willing to share each other's thoughts and feelings. Every relationship needs intimacy to flourish. However when we get to the point of knowing each other too well, predictably sets in and this can hurt passion in the long run.

(4) Becoming parents do not lead to better sex

After marrying for many years, people tend to look upon their spouses as their kids' father or mother more than regarding them as lovers as what they did when they initially met. When this happens, passion in bed definitely ebbs. Also the time invests in caring and nurturing kids can at times makes the husband feels neglected.

(5) You may be the last person in the world to know what turns him on

Guys tend not to reveal everything about themselves because it can make them look weak. That is why what moves us sexually is usually one of our most closely guarded secrets. Though greater intimacy does not necessary lead to greater sex but without intimacy, passionate lovemaking is impossible.

How to maintain the passion in marriage sex

(1) Do not assume you know everything about what pleases your spouse sexually

It is common for a husband and wife to be together for many years without each knowing what can please their spouse in bed. This can be due to out of embarrassment or being afraid to be seen as weird or selfish, in talking about it.

(2) Sharing each other's fantasies in an emotionally safe way

You can encourage your husband to slowly reveal aspects of his sexuality. You can say something like, "I have some craziest erotic ideas. Why not tell me something that you think will surprise me about how we can spice up our sex lives? I will promise to tell you something in return that will surprise you as well." Saying it in this way means you are willing to listen to something unexpected and can encourage your husband to be open. If saying out loud is still too embarrassing, encourage him to put his thoughts in words.

(3) Make sex more fun

You both can take turns to act out one of more of each other's sexual fantasies. Being playful can energize the feelings of each other.

(4) Offering examples

Encourage him to be more open about his real fantasies by saying something like, "What really excites you - being tied up and blindfolded, pretending I am someone else, you name it."

(5) Doing something different

Dress to impress each other. A different style of clothing or different hairstyle can trigger new feelings of each other.

Reference by : Eng_Hou_Ng

Male All-Body Orgasm Myths Revealed!

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Spicing up your sex life, with your man, is easy when you know the sexy secrets of a gifted Tantra Courtesan. Imagine spicing up your sex life today, with real sexy tidbits and sensual bedroom knowledge leaked by a gifted Sex Coach with many years of experience turning men on.

It is this Tantra Goddess's desire to tell the world about male all-body orgasm. The sex secrets, which you are soon to learn, earns me a substantial income - however, I believe that every man and women should be able to experience longer lasting sex and enjoy hours of all-body multiple orgasms. Let's get to the crux of the problem and talk about male orgasm.

Four Facts about Male Orgasm...

The average male orgasm lasts for 5-15 seconds with ejaculation.
Many men make no sound when they have sex.
Most men hold their breath, as they orgasm, which causes them to ejaculate.
Most men squeeze their legs and butt, 5-10 seconds before orgasm, and then they ejaculate.
The Average Male Orgasm lasts 5-15 seconds with Ejaculation
Men can experience hours of orgasm and match their partner equally, stroke for stroke in the bedroom. With some minor tweaking, men can climax and go deeper into orgasm and pleasure, if ejaculation is removed from the equation.

Many men make no sound when they have sex

The first question I ask a man, when I am working as a sex coach is... Have you slept with many women, and have you noticed that some ladies make lots of noise in the bedroom, while other women make no sound at all? My follow-up question is, who do you think are having the best orgasms, the quiet ladies or the noisy ones?

Readers here are their answers. The guys say that their sex partners, who make lots of noise, are the ones that seem to be having the first-rate orgasms. Therefore if your man makes no sound during sex, he is potentially crippling hours of orgasmic pleasure and bliss.

If your man makes no sound during sex, he is never truly surrendering to pleasure. Did you know most men are really turned when their partners moan and even scream during intercourse! It's like loudly praising the pleasure giver, wouldn't you think?

Most men hold their breath, as they orgasm, which causes them to ejaculate

This is just a bad masturbation technique practiced from puberty and many men hold their breath as they ejaculate. Here's an analogy, holding ones breath, as one ejaculates is like racing a formula one car, at high speeds, with one's foot resting on the brake. Teach your man to breathe slowly and deeply as he climaxes and your man will experience more intense orgasms!

Most men squeeze their legs and butt, 5-10 seconds before orgasm, and then they ejaculate

The potential to spread the male orgasm from between your man's thighs and into an all-body experience is crippled when males squeeze their legs and butt, around ten seconds, before orgasm. Watch your man and coach him to relax, if your man begins planking prior to a potentially earth shattering climax!

Fine Tune your Mans Orgasm to Last

With some minor tweaking every male can experience extended orgasm with delayed ejaculation. It is very easy to train your man to match your orgasms stroke for stroke. Do look out for the second part of this article, with four more facts about male all-body and multiple orgasms with delayed ejaculation. To find out more information check out Sexual Secrets of Great Lovers.

Reference by : Aleena_Aspley

Tips on How to Seduce a Woman You Work With

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There is a woman you work with whom you just cannot seem to get out your mind. You make small talk with her all of the time, trying to get in a little flirtation here and there. You enjoy this, but the reality is... you want more than that. You want to be able to find a way to make her want you, and you want to be able to go about it in a way that will not make things weird for you when you are at work. That can be complicated, that is for sure. The thing is, it does not mean that it cannot be done, because it can. You just have to be careful about how you go about seducing a female co worker.

Don't Rush Things...

When it comes to seduction, you never really want to rush things. However, when you are dealing with a situation that can be come "complicated" really easily, then you need to be even more aware of the need to have the timing down just right. Rushing things with a woman at a club? It does not matter so much, because you may or may not see her again. With a woman you work with, you KNOW that you are going to have to see her again, so timing is really a big deal.

Step One - You Need to Be Able to Fan The Flames...

Because of the fact that you need to get things just right, you want to "fan the flames," which really just means you want to get the attraction built up between you and her before you really make your move. If you can build up the attraction enough, then getting her to go out with you after work can be easy as pie. So how can you do this?

Flirt with her in a way that catches her off guard. Women will playfully flirt with male co workers all of the time and it really does not mean a thing. It's just a little fun while they are on the job. That's not the kind of flirting that you need to do. What you need to do is to take things just a little bit further, so that it catches her off guard and makes her realize that you are not just flirting the way that another co worker would.

Step Two - You Have to Take a Chance...

Once the attraction is built up between you and the woman you work with, then you need to do the next step and that is to actually take a chance and get her to go out with you. This can be done simply by suggesting that the two of you get together after work to let off some steam or just hang out. As long as the attraction really is there, then getting her to say yes should be easy.

Step Three - You Want to Lead Her With the Right Conversation...

Once you get her to go out with you, you cannot simply talk the way that you would on the job. The conversation has to be light and fun and it has to escalate to where you are using a little sexual innuendo here and there. You can kill any hopes that you have of being able to seduce a woman you work with if the conversation ends up stifling things between you and her.

Step Four - You Have to Make The Transition Back to Your Place...

Okay, so if you get her to go hang out with you, chances are it will not be at your apartment or hers. If it does end up there, that's good. If not, then you need to be able to make that transition. How do you do this? Well, the easiest way is to choose a place that is nearby where you live. Then use the conversation to lead to a point where you can suggest going back to your place and it just seems natural. Once you get her back to your place, it's on you to make things escalate even further.

Reference by : Chris_Tyler

Increase Sex Drive For Men

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f you think that all men are horny creatures which have nothing much else but sex on their minds, then you may have been mistaken because there is a large group of men and the group is getting bigger is that as far as they are concerned, sex could be the last thing on their minds.

Surprised? Not at all, because these men are suffering from low libido or low sex drive.

There are many reasons why they are suffering from low libido or even no sexual urges at all. To the detriment of these men, not only they are not able to enjoy normal sexual life, they may also not be able to satisfy their spouses or sexual partners causing unhappiness leading to divorces and breakups.

So let us take a look at the causes of low sex drive and then check out the remedies that can correct this male deficiency.

Low sex drive can be triggered off by psychological, emotional and physical causes. Just any single one of these factors will sometimes be enough to shut off a person's sex drive, whether you are a man or a woman. Very unfortunately, some men may even have a combination of all these trigger factors thus compounding their sexual health problems.

Anxiety, depression, stress and many other negative emotions such as hatred, anger and unhappiness are known psychological and emotional causes of low sex drive irrespective of gender. The trouble is that as far as men are concerned, these factors not only make them have lower sex drive, they may also cause impotency or commonly known as erectile dysfunction causing their male sexual health to take another downward spin which can be very demoralising.

On the physical aspect of this phenomenon, the testosterone level of men decline correspondingly as they age. Testosterone is commonly called the "male sex hormone" for a reason. This predominantly male hormone is responsible for giving men their manly attributes, features and characteristics. It is also responsible for the male sex drive, ability to get good erections, building strength and muscles, maintaining bone density, increasing mental alertness and many other positive health benefits.

Unfortunately, the production of this almost amazing hormone start to decline in your twenties and the decline is unceasing year after year. That could be the reason why more mature men suffer from loss of libido and erectile dysfunction although younger men can also be victims too.

So what are the remedies to increase male sex drive? On the emotional and psychological aspect, by removing the root causes will help immediately. On the physical aspect, make your body produce more testosterone.

Enhancing testosterone production can be achieved by eating healthy meals that are rich in proteins, low to moderate in carbohydrates and fats. We all know the reasons for eating low fat meals but why limit carbohydrates too?

This is because carbohydrates, especially those that are of the high glycemic variety like sugary food and drinks, confectionaries can cause an increased level of insulin and cortisol in the bloodstream which will affect your testosterone production negatively.

To boost your testosterone level even further, start a regular exercise program. Start a bodybuilding program if you can. The reason is because when you do weight lifting to build muscles, your body needs to produce more testosterone so that it can help your muscles to repair itself and grow bigger and stronger.

If you are thinking of expensive and risky testosterone replacement program, you may wish to consider supplementing your diet with natural herbal testosterone enhancing pills instead. There are many natural supplements you can take that encourage your body to produce more of your own testosterone.

So the remedies to increase sex drive is to be happy, have more positive emotions, eat and sleep healthily, exercise regularly and supplementing with testosterone enhancers and become the stud that is in you.

Reference by : Chris_Chew

Say Goodbye To Bedroom Boredom!

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Are you suffering from "bedroom boredom"? Are you ready to rejuvenate your sex life and take it from lukewarm to sizzling hot? Please read on...

If you and your partner are ready to take your sexual relationship to a whole other level and reach new heights of sexual ecstasy, you must first understand a few things about each other's bodies and sexual responses.

People differ in their sexual responses much in the same way as they do in their physical appearance and their personalities. When you begin to explore your own sexuality, you will not only get to know yourself better, you will also develop more self-confidence. It's like my tantra teacher once said, "Nothing builds self-confidence like sexual-competence."

When you get to know your own sexual responses, you should also learn about your partner(s). Find out how he or she likes to be touched, kissed, caressed and more importantly, what their inner most desires are. To do this, talk to your partner about their sexual preferences and be open to listening attentively to whatever they share with you.

Additionally, there are certain sexual techniques you can practice to increase your own pleasure and your partner's...

1. Pelvic Control: When you learn to control the muscles of your pelvic region, what is often referred to as the PC muscles, you can multiply sexual pleasure, increase genital health and men can more easily learn ejaculation control. Pelvic exercises are sometimes called 'kegels" and they require simply tensing the muscles of the vagina or penis, as though you were stopping the flow of urine. There are different methods people use to exercise the muscles of their pelvis. Some people use repetitions, as though they were exercising any other muscle. For example, a method I like is to tighten the pelvic floor, holding it for a count of 10, then slowly releasing. The great thing about this technique is that it can be done anywhere whether you are at home, at work, on the bus or waiting in line at the post office. It is basically imperceptible to most people.

Also, the "towel technique" can be very effective for men who suffer from premature ejaculation. It consists of placing a towel or wash cloth over the man's erection and squeezing the PC muscles to lift the towel, which acts as a weight. Over time, when the muscles of penis begin to strengthen, he can graduate to wrapping a silk scarf around his erection, with a small weight attached.

2. Ejaculation Control: Tantric techniques encourage ejaculation control and semen retention in men as being the most powerful sexual skills that a man can acquire. It is believed that orgasm without ejaculation can help a man preserve his yang essence, allowing him to prolong intercourse and give his partner the chance to reach orgasm. Moreover, it can help a man learn to experience multiple orgasms (yes, it's possible) because sexual energy amplifies, when it is not given the chance to dissipate.

3. G-Spot Stimulation: Other techniques that couples can use to enhance sexual pleasure include stimulating a woman's g-spot. Located about 2 inches from the top wall of the vagina, the g-spot is about the size of a quarter and slightly rougher to the touch than the surrounding tissue. The g-spot can be stimulated manually by placing two fingers inside the front end of the vagina and drawing the fingers in with a "come hither" motion. The g-spot can also be stimulated through intercourse or tantric techniques.

4. Relaxation: Studies have shown that women and men differ in the way they have sex. Brain scans of men and women having sex have revealed that men rely more heavily on physical stimulation, while female sexual arousal seems to depend more on deep relaxation and the lack of anxiety. So if a man wants to please a woman in bed, he needs to make sure that she's sufficiently relaxed. If she needs help unwinding after a hard day at work, he can guide her through a meditation, massage her with aromatic oils or my favorite yet...blindfold her and tantalize her gently with feathers and silk scarves. Keep in mind that a man will be contributing to his own sexual pleasure, when he is assisting a woman in hers.

5. Tantric Sex: Discovering tantra can not only rejuvenate a sleepy sex life, it can also help us achieve heights of sexual ecstasy, we may never have imagined ourselves capable of experiencing. In tantra, the interplay and balance between the male and female aspects of our personalities (Shiva & Shakti or Yin & Yang) are an essential part of lovemaking. The male characteristics such as intellect, ambition and assertiveness make him the "giver" during sex, while the feminine nurturing, intuitive and receptive nature of the woman make her the "receiver". Couples often have these gender roles reversed, where the woman is more of an active giver, while the man more passively receives. While it can be exciting to experiment with different roles, great value can be gained when both partners are given the chance to express themselves with their most natural way. When a woman relaxes, she can let go of "control" and enter into a state of "allowing" where she opens herself up to receiving. Her partner can then more easily enter into his yang or male energy, which leads and "penetrates" the yin or feminine essence.

Reference by : Katrina_Damore

 

How Long Is Long Enough For Her

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Great sex is about sexual technique? Or is it about effective sexual communication? Or is it about sex toys? If you do a search on the Amazon website, you can easily find over 150 books with great sex in the title, each offering various kinds of ideas about sex. As the saying goes, "One man's meat is another man's poison", when comes to making love which is something very personal, one person's great sexual ideas may not necessarily be yours. The subtler the sex myths, the more damaging they can do to your relationship and love life. Here are a few of the more common sex myths that a lot of guys tend to believe.

(1) Women are not interested in watching porn

It never occurs to most guys that women get in touch with their sexuality through pornography. The fact is women often use literary erotica or more subtle pictures of half-naked males to accomplish what men use pornography for. Women can be equally as horny as men.

(2) You need to give a woman an orgasm in every lovemaking session

The fact is at times not due to the fault of either party, or it can be due to certain temporary psychological factors, a woman is not able to reach orgasm. This is perfectly normal. When a guy feels that sex will not be complete if he is not able to bring a woman to orgasm, this will exert a lot of pressure on both parties. When your mind becomes fixated on the goal of achieving orgasm, your chances of actually reaching this peak of sexual excitement can diminish significantly. The thing is, many women who do not have orgasms can still find sex fulfilling as long as they feel loved.

If you are struggling with achieving a powerful orgasm, it may be because your foreplay is lacking. What you should do is you can slightly tease each other and come close to orgasm without actually achieving one, when she comes her final orgasmic moment will be spectacular. Teasing one another is playful and fun and creates a sexual buildup that powerfully culminates in her final orgasm.

(3) There is a right amount of sex

Many guys will start to get concerned about their relationships when the frequency of sex decreases after an initial spurt of almost every late night's bedroom orgy. The fear out there is everyone else out there is having a lot more sex than you are. The fact is people have different sex drive levels and it is perfectly normal about having sex once or twice a week, or even less frequently for some couples.

(4) The longer the lovemaking session the better it is

Most men think so. They will try to push sex regularly past the hour mark, and get frustrated or disappointed if they cannot extend their bedroom sessions to the tantric levels of longevity.

The reality is that longer sex does not necessarily equal better sex. It usually results in a lot of sore body parts and painful sex due to prolonged penetration. Here is the simple truth. You only need to last as long as it takes for a woman to have an orgasm. This does not even need to be achieved through vaginal penetration. A woman is capable of getting an orgasm through foreplay, oral sex, masturbation or even mental seduction. As long as she receives her orgasm, the amount of time you spend inside her does not matter much. What a guy should do is to spend more time and effort during foreplay and bring her to climax before entering her. Even if you do not last even a minute longer after penetration, she will still give you 100 marks for your sexual performance.

Reference by : Eng_Hou_Ng

 

Do You Have A Fantasy?

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Not looking for love, but hoping to fulfill a long-time fantasy? Why not check out those adult dating websites online. They offer a way to connect with other people locally who want to hook up for a night, or perhaps a little longer, but are not searching for a serious relationship.

Many paid dating sites are out there just waiting for you to join the millions of others who are looking for a quick fling with no attachment between you and them. With a paid subscription, you can receive many benefits that you would not get when joining a free adult site. But why, you may be asking, not free sites?

Well, first the old adage that you get what you pay for still holds true. Secondly, adult dating tends to pull a huge crowd, with curiosity seekers making a huge chunk of it. You want to meet serious, like-minded people who are seeking to fulfill the same needs as you are. These serious types are to be found on paid adult dating websites. That they are coughing up a monthly fee is enough proof of their seriousness.

In addition, paid dating sites offer many more useful features and options to enhance your adult dating experience. Options you may enjoy can include more pictures, videos, and chats with other members and several other things. It's never been so easy to find a "quickie" as this; just turning on your computer and locating the right adult web page could lead to a lot of fun for you, and another person!

The advanced searches provided give you a chance to narrow down your search to age, income, heritage and several other things. Whatever makes you happy. It will all depend, again, on which adult dating website you decide to join.

Females looking for females, males looking for males, couples looking for couple, the good old one-night stand, or even people who are hoping to find someone who is kinky and experience something new. This industry is one that is huge and there are plenty of great choices for you when you look online.

Before you join a site make sure that you check out how long they have been around, how many active members there are, and how often members sign on. This does not mean that a new site is no good, but it is a safer bet to go with an older one. Many adult dating websites will give you a chance to try them for free, or with limited benefits until you pay for a subscription.

With the free trial, you will be able to search around and find a person you might want to meet, and even contact them. Don't limit yourself to just one site though, open a few and add your profile. This is why a free trial is such a good thing. Take full advantage of it. Post good adult personal profiles, and make sure to make them as exciting as you can. Excitement is the name of the game when it comes to adult personals.

With those ads you will be able to let others know just what you are looking for and how often you may want to play. Swingers, husbands and wives who may be looking for an additional partner or even someone who just wants to learn a bit more about something off the wall. You can find it all when you look to adult dating websites.

Reference by : David_N_Kamau

Turn On a Woman Sexually

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Turning on a woman sexually is something that all straight men want to be able to do. And sometimes we trick ourselves into believing that we know how to do this without ever really thinking too deeply on it. The problem with that is, it's not always true. See, most guys learn what they know about turning on a woman from the worst sources. They learn from buddies who know about as much as they do. They learn from movies that are set up to appeal to what guys want to see... not to what really works to turn on a woman.

So, the uncomfortable reality is... most men are not as skilled at turning on a woman sexually as they like to think they are. And what is the reality of not being able to turn on a woman sexually? I think you know the answer to this one. You either won't get nearly as much action as you want or you might end up losing a woman you are dating just because she is not getting the pleasure and satisfaction that she desires from you.

Either way... You LOSE!

Here's a little advice on how to turn a woman on sexually:

1. She does not get turned on by the same things that get you going.

If you take away one tidbit from this article, this should be it. Women don't get turned on by all of the same stuff that men do. So, if you approach trying to turn her on and you do it using techniques and methods that get you going, there is a really good chance that it's NOT doing the trick. You want to really be able to get that chiseled into your mind and make sure that it stays there.

2. The environment plays a big role for her.

One really stark difference that applies to almost all women you are going to meet is... the environment does play a huge role in whether she gets turned on or not. If she is in an environment that she does not quite feel comfortable in, then chances are, it's not going to be a good place to try and get her turned on. For this, you have to get a good feel for her personality, because not every woman likes the same environment. Some are more adventurous than others.

3. Conversation leads to stimulation.

Both men and women can get really turned on by conversation, but for women, it takes a little more than it does for a guy. A woman could just flat out say the words... "I want you" and that would probably be more than enough to get you turned on, right? Well, for most women, you need more than three words. You need to be descriptive and creative. You need to kind of set up an image in her mind, something that she can feel and see.

Reference by : Chris_Tyler

 

The Truths About Sex In A Relationship

Almost everyone admits that after 10 years of marriage, trying to stay passionate to each other is never easy. No one can always act adoring or keep up an air of mystery while sharing the same space with his or her spouse year after year. Here are the truths about sex for most married couples.

(1) Love can last but passion needs regular charging

Some people do not need to reach the 7-year itch, because lust fades away as fast as the firework display. Especially for guys after marriage, they refocus their attention on career at the expense of their love lives, feeling that they have already their objectives in their love lives. When people stop trying to impress their partners, passion definitely goes downhill.

(2) Being complacent is never sexy

Couples who can stay emotionally connected to each other share many great moments and fond memories. They also pay special attention to creating those magical ones because great sex requires magic. It is only after you exercise some creativity and make an effort to reignite romance that you can both have a strong marriage and a good sex life.

(3) Greater intimacy does not necessary lead to stronger passion

Intimacy means willing to share each other's thoughts and feelings. Every relationship needs intimacy to flourish. However when we get to the point of knowing each other too well, predictably sets in and this can hurt passion in the long run.

(4) Becoming parents do not lead to better sex

After marrying for many years, people tend to look upon their spouses as their kids' father or mother more than regarding them as lovers as what they did when they initially met. When this happens, passion in bed definitely ebbs. Also the time invests in caring and nurturing kids can at times makes the husband feels neglected.

(5) You may be the last person in the world to know what turns him on

Guys tend not to reveal everything about themselves because it can make them look weak. That is why what moves us sexually is usually one of our most closely guarded secrets. Though greater intimacy does not necessary lead to greater sex but without intimacy, passionate lovemaking is impossible.

How to maintain the passion in marriage sex

(1) Do not assume you know everything about what pleases your spouse sexually

It is common for a husband and wife to be together for many years without each knowing what can please their spouse in bed. This can be due to out of embarrassment or being afraid to be seen as weird or selfish, in talking about it.

(2) Sharing each other's fantasies in an emotionally safe way

You can encourage your husband to slowly reveal aspects of his sexuality. You can say something like, "I have some craziest erotic ideas. Why not tell me something that you think will surprise me about how we can spice up our sex lives? I will promise to tell you something in return that will surprise you as well." Saying it in this way means you are willing to listen to something unexpected and can encourage your husband to be open. If saying out loud is still too embarrassing, encourage him to put his thoughts in words.

(3) Make sex more fun

You both can take turns to act out one of more of each other's sexual fantasies. Being playful can energize the feelings of each other.

(4) Offering examples

Encourage him to be more open about his real fantasies by saying something like, "What really excites you - being tied up and blindfolded, pretending I am someone else, you name it."

(5) Doing something different

Dress to impress each other. A different style of clothing or different hairstyle can trigger new feelings of each other.

Reference by : Eng_Hou_Ng

 

How To Meet The Right Couple For Swinging

Would you like to try the swinging lifestyle? Once you have made the decision to give it a try, the biggest hurdle to overcome is to find another suitable couple to play with. Fortunately you can benefit from the experience of others by knowing the best way to find other people. Here are some ideas to help you.

Firstly, be aware it can be a lengthy process. You may end up chatting with a large number of couples before you find one you really click with. This is hardly surprising; it is difficult enough to find two people who are attracted to each other, but to find four who all share some chemistry can seem nigh-on impossible.

You will meet couples who may be interested in you but who for whatever reason you don't feel particularly attracted to. Don't be concerned about this - it really does go with the territory.

Also, do not despair or be in a rush to start playing once you decide you and your partner would like to be swingers. Many people decide to play with the first people who come along and find that the experience is not really very pleasurable. In fact it can be a disaster.

All this said, what is the best way to meet another couple for swinging. There are in fact three ways.

The first way is to consider people you already know. You may think your friends would not be interested in swinging, but swinging is surprisingly widespread. Do not discount your friends! Think about who you already know who you find attractive. Invite them for dinner and drop a few subtle hints. Lead the conversation in a sexual direction and see their reaction. Of course if you get a negative reaction you know to back off as you don't want to destroy your friendship.

The second way and probably the most widespread is to meet couples through an online swingers website. There are a number of good ones which have large numbers of couples (and singles) who are swingers and are looking to meet other likeminded people. You can get a very good idea about them from the information they post online, including their interests and physical characteristics. Usually they will (or should) put up some photographs so you can get a better idea of their body shape and sizes.

To do this you should also put up your own details by creating a profile. This will allow other couples to contact you if they are interested. The first step will be to have some brief message exchange to see if there is some connection. If it all looks promising, you should try to meet as soon as possible. This should only be for the purposes of checking each other out. Unless you are not fussy at all you will find this an essential step as despite all the online conversation in the world you will not know if you all click until you meet each other.

The third way you can meet other swingers is to go to a swingers party. Getting invited to these can be quite tricky. However, swingers websites often list parties. Choose one in your area and put your name down as being interested. If you go to a swingers party remember the golden rule amongst all swingers is "no means no". You will not be pressured into doing anything you don't want to, and no one will mind if you decline an invitation to play. Swingers parties are a very good way to meet a number of couples all at once to see if you feel a special connection with any of them.

Reference by : Michael_J_Andrews

 

Performance Tuning Your Penile-Vaginal Internal Combustion Engine for Insanely High Performance Sex

Interestingly enough, we can look at the sexual interface between a man and a woman and relate this to the workings of an internal combustion engine. Using some simple methods, it's rather easy to performance tune both the man and the woman to get the most sexual horsepower (pleasure) out of penile-vaginal sex.

Think of the man's penile head as the piston, and his penile shaft as the connecting rod. His "rod" is then connected to his pelvis, which acts as the crank.

Her vagina, thus, becomes the cylinder in which this connecting rod/piston interacts with. Now, how can we improve the peak sexual performance of this engine?

Lubrication - Lubrication is paramount to an engine surviving and working properly. Lubrication decreases friction and makes for a smoother running engine. So, we must take your engine's lubrication very seriously. The best way to help getting the engine lubed is to engage in foreplay. Cunnilingus is a great way to ensure proper lubrication is utilized before you really start to rev the engine. If lubrication is a problem, perhaps because of a weak oil pump, specialized lubricants can be purchased that will ensure that the entire engine is properly lubricated and will run at peak efficiency and performance.

While your engine is running, stimulation to the clitoris and erogenous areas of the body will ensure lubrication remains fluid and constant. Talking dirty is another method that helps some engines see better lubrication.

Bulletproof Components - Oral sex is another method, in this case, fellatio, that will ensure that the man's crank, connecting rod, and piston are strong and reliable. A weak connecting rod will result in a poor-running engine and may result in sexual failure. Fellatio is the mechanism that can help ensure that a man's parts are up to it. Other methods, such as kinky add-ons, can also ensure his sexual system is bulletproof and up to the task.

SPM - Strokes per Minute will replace Revolutions per Minute (RPMs). This is very important, especially for the lead foot, in relation to properly lubricated components. A man shouldn't start off doing 100 SPMs, as it's better to ensure proper lubrication (which will further be stimulated during the SPM curve). So, starting off at a lower SPM range and "breaking" in the engine first, will ensure that both of you can go the distance. Once the engine has warmed up and is running smoothly, then the SPMs can be increased.

Timing - Timing relates to both SPMs and the environment. From an environmental standpoint, don't go looking to go racing, if you or your partner isn't interested. It's best to go for a spin when the conditions are "just right" for the both of you.

With relation to SPMs, there are a lot of factors to take into consideration. On some days it's best to use a different SPM range than on other days. This may be due to decreased lubrication, a sore piston, or worn cylinder. Make a note of what Timing Cycle is best during your day at the track. Monitoring your partner's response, will also help you decide when to slow down on the SPMs, or speed them up, to ensure the ultimate in performance and response from both partners. Both partners should make a conscious effort to "feel" what the right SPM range is for your partner at any given moment and do your best to keep in "time" together.

Beefing up the Suspension for the Right Track - Different race tracks require performance-tuning the suspension to get the utmost out of the racing experience. Beefing up the suspension with pillows, different positioning of the motor mounts, and ensuring the springs on your test "bed" are up to the task is a great way to ensure you both come in first place and cross the finish line together.

Self-Tuning - Men can improve their performance by getting in shape, eating right, and learning what really gets her internal components to sing. Enlarging a man's penis, increasing his stamina, and learning the tricks to get the most out of his engine will ensure an engine that runs at its performance peak, any time of the day or night.

Women, too, can accentuate their performance by getting in shape, having a healthy diet, and figuring out what really gets his engine singing. Kegel exercises are one way in which she can strengthen her cylinder to ensure the ultimate sexual compression ratio is maintained, especially at those high SPMs.

By learning some of these simple procedures, it's quite possible for a loving couple to create the ultimate in sexual horsepower, orgasmic torque, and mind-bending sexual performance.

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When Enough Sex Is Not Enough

What can cause the differences in sex drive in a relationship? How to cope when your partner wants more or less sex than you? Read on!

What causes different sex drives?

(1) Relationship problems

This can be due to differences on matters such as who should contribute more to household expenses and who should pay for which item, child rearing and relationship with in-laws. When couples cannot resolve conflicts over these matters, one of them will bear a grudge against the other one. This pent-up anger can cause the aggrieved side to lose sexual interest on his/her partner. This can also lead to him/her to withhold sex to punish his/her partner.

(2) Inadequate knowledge about sex

If one or both of you are raised in societies where there is no sex education or where sex is a taboo topic being negatively viewed as something dirty or immoral, this can prevent you from looking for ways to enrich and spice up your sex life. You or your spouse may think that sex is meant only for procreation and cannot see any connection between sex and pleasure.

(3) Psychological issues

Stress over work or child rearing, performance anxiety, lack of sexual confidence, past histories of sexual abuse, physical or mental ailments, drug abuse, medication (drugs such as those prescribe for hypertension can hurt sexual desire) leaving either one of you to lose interest in sex.

(4) Differences in the way you and your spouse look at sex

You and your partner may have different baseline sex drives and/or may prioritize sex differently. This may not be any serious relationship problems, only mere differences in the way how each side thinks about sex.

(5) Not enough passion

Absence makes the heart grows fonder. Not giving enough space to each other in daily life, with both sides sticking to each other like a piece of chewing gum can be stifling and hurt passion in the long run. The pressures and expectations we put on our intimate relationships may kill the passion in lovemaking.

How to cope with different level of sexual desire?

(1) Avoid blaming your partner

It is always very easy to blame others when problems crop up. This can only cause your spouse to get defensive and discourage him/her from working together with you to come up with solutions. Even if you feel most of the problems lie with your partner, it is better to find out what are the causes and how they arise.

(2) Talking to your partner

When relationship problems surface, it is best to find the space and time to talk to your partner. If you do not talk to your partner, you will not be able to discover the roots of the problems and he/she may not be aware of the existence of problems or your concerns. Before talking to your spouse, make sure you think before you talk, avoid putting the blame on him/her, begin your statements with "I" such as, "I think....." or "I am concern about........" and always remember to listen. However if the situation deteriorates to the point where both of you cannot talk to each other without ending up in arguments, you will have to find a counselor or therapist.

(3) Working towards a compromise

It is very unrealistic to expect everything to go according to the way you want. A relationship is a series of constant adjustment to each other and involving a lot of give and take. Finding sexual compromise is much easier when you lay down all the options on the table for both sides to work out the differences in sexual desire.

(4) Looking for self-help resources

There are many books you can find in book shops, libraries or online that touch on issues like sex drive discrepancies in a long-term relationship. Some of them may have titles such as Dealing With A Sexless Marriage. This is a viable option before you consider seeing a counselor or a family therapist.

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How to Make Her Orgasm in the Crab Sex Position

Stand up and stretch a little before you read this article because what I am about to tell you is going to absolutely change your sex life for the better in a variety of different ways.

Odds are you are reading this because you are interested in learning how to make her orgasm in the crab sex position. Of course the "her" we are more than likely referring about is the woman that you are with who is either your girlfriend, wife or soon to be.

Hopefully by now you have already stood up and stretch a little so let us move on to discovering how to make her orgasm in the Crab Sex Position and more.

How to Make Her Orgasm in the Crab Sex Position

Now imagine that you're in the Crab Sex Position, do you know what she is going to enjoy the most about this position?

Believe it or not, what women like the most about this position is the incredible amount of G-Spot stimulation that she is able to feel.

And since we are on the subject of G-Spot stimulation do you know what will allow her to feel even more pleasure in regards to her G-Spot?

That's right you guessed it, if you have a bigger and thicker penis than average then she is going to feel her G-Spot being stimulated even more and if you have a smaller than average penis you will be glad to know that there are a variety of different penis enlargement pills and devices on the market that will help you enlarge your penis.

However, before you begin to consider which penis enlargement pill you should choose in order to enlarge your penis you should also know that when it comes to making her orgasm, stimulating her clitoris is one of the most effective ways to do so and any penis size can bring her to orgasmic bliss that way in fact you don't even need a penis at all to make her orgasm that way as simply using your tongue or fingers can do the trick as well.

In any case, in regards to the Crab Sex Position the most effective way to get into this sex pose is going to be by sitting up with your legs straight so that she can then sit on top of you with her legs on your shoulders and arms for support. Once she has gotten into this position she will lie back with her legs on either side of you as she puts her hands on your knees.

As stated earlier, women love the Crab Sex Position because of the enhanced G-Spot stimulation that they are able to feel. Unfortunately as you probably have already begun to notice you aren't able to effectively stimulate her clitoris in this position which means that you are going to want to allow her to experience a couple of clitoral orgasms beforehand so that her g-spot can become even more sensitive.

What many people don't realize is that while the G-Spot offers a woman a different kind of climax and orgasmic experience in the majority of cases it is also a whole lot less sensitive to stimulation than the clitoris. What this means is that if you don't take the time to get her more sensitive to your touch by giving her a few clitoral orgasms you can end up getting in this position yet her not experiencing any of the orgasmic bliss that awaits because her body isn't sensitive enough to feel it yet.

In the end, no matter what your penis size may be, if you don't get her highly aroused and sensitive through a variety of different foreplay techniques and clitoral stimulation you wont be able to make her orgasm in the Crab Sex Position.

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How to Make a Woman Climax in the Fusion Sex Position

Now I can almost see you visualizing the look on your woman's face as you are making her climax in Fusion sex position. No doubt about it, if you are reading this, then odds are pretty good that you want to learn how make a woman climax in the Fusion Sex Position.

As long as you think you are good enough to make a woman orgasm then you will be glad to know that as you continue to read this article you will begin to learn how to make a woman climax in the Fusion Sex Position and so much more.

How to Make a Woman Climax in the Fusion Sex Position!

Begin to focus on your natural breathing rhythm so that as you read one of the best ways to get into the Fusion sex position it will resonate within your entire state of being which believe it or not will allow you to get in rhythm with her body during the sex act and lead to the kind of explosive orgasms that will have her begging for more.

When it comes to the Fusion sex pose the best way to get into this sexual position is going to be by sitting in a straight legged position while she sits on top of you as she leans back. Also for those of you who find the Armchair position to be a bit challenging this is a great alternative to that particular pose as well.

Now that you have begun to realize how to get into this position you are quite naturally wondering how in the world are you going to make a woman climax in this position.

Indeed you might find it particularly surprising that when it comes to making a woman climax in the Fusion sex position actually prepping her for a climax in this position by stimulating her clitoris to orgasmic bliss is going to be one of the most effective ways to do so.

And when it comes to stimulating her clitoris into orgasmic bliss you have several options to choose from as you can use your fingers, mouth, or penis to stimulate her in so many different ways.

Once you have given her a couple of orgasms through clitoral stimulation you will find it much more simple and powerful to make her climax in the Fusion sex position.

While it isn't a secret that the Fusion position when done correctly can lead to some extremely intense and powerful g-spot orgasms what you may not realize is that your penis size and girth will play a high role on her ability to feel any type of stimulation on her g-spot.

And while it is true that even if you have an average or smaller penis size you can still stimulate and her G-Spot depending on the angle you get in when it comes to the Fusion sex position you really don't have as much control over the penetration angle as you like which means if your penis size isn't big enough there really isn't much you are going to be able to do about it other than making sure that you bring her orgasmic bliss both before and after experimenting with this position.

In the end, if you are indeed seriously interested in learning how to make a woman climax then you are going to want to let yourself get to that point where you automatically find yourself enjoying the initial aspects of the sex act such as foreplay and stimulating her clitoris that way no matter what your penis size may be you will be able to give her the kind of sexual experiences that will have her begging for more night after night.

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Remedies To Increase Sex Drive For Men

If you think that all men are horny creatures which have nothing much else but sex on their minds, then you may have been mistaken because there is a large group of men and the group is getting bigger is that as far as they are concerned, sex could be the last thing on their minds.

Surprised? Not at all, because these men are suffering from low libido or low sex drive.

There are many reasons why they are suffering from low libido or even no sexual urges at all. To the detriment of these men, not only they are not able to enjoy normal sexual life, they may also not be able to satisfy their spouses or sexual partners causing unhappiness leading to divorces and breakups.

So let us take a look at the causes of low sex drive and then check out the remedies that can correct this male deficiency.

Low sex drive can be triggered off by psychological, emotional and physical causes. Just any single one of these factors will sometimes be enough to shut off a person's sex drive, whether you are a man or a woman. Very unfortunately, some men may even have a combination of all these trigger factors thus compounding their sexual health problems.

Anxiety, depression, stress and many other negative emotions such as hatred, anger and unhappiness are known psychological and emotional causes of low sex drive irrespective of gender. The trouble is that as far as men are concerned, these factors not only make them have lower sex drive, they may also cause impotency or commonly known as erectile dysfunction causing their male sexual health to take another downward spin which can be very demoralising.

On the physical aspect of this phenomenon, the testosterone level of men decline correspondingly as they age. Testosterone is commonly called the "male sex hormone" for a reason. This predominantly male hormone is responsible for giving men their manly attributes, features and characteristics. It is also responsible for the male sex drive, ability to get good erections, building strength and muscles, maintaining bone density, increasing mental alertness and many other positive health benefits.

Unfortunately, the production of this almost amazing hormone start to decline in your twenties and the decline is unceasing year after year. That could be the reason why more mature men suffer from loss of libido and erectile dysfunction although younger men can also be victims too.

So what are the remedies to increase male sex drive? On the emotional and psychological aspect, by removing the root causes will help immediately. On the physical aspect, make your body produce more testosterone.

Enhancing testosterone production can be achieved by eating healthy meals that are rich in proteins, low to moderate in carbohydrates and fats. We all know the reasons for eating low fat meals but why limit carbohydrates too?

This is because carbohydrates, especially those that are of the high glycemic variety like sugary food and drinks, confectionaries can cause an increased level of insulin and cortisol in the bloodstream which will affect your testosterone production negatively.

To boost your testosterone level even further, start a regular exercise program. Start a bodybuilding program if you can. The reason is because when you do weight lifting to build muscles, your body needs to produce more testosterone so that it can help your muscles to repair itself and grow bigger and stronger.

If you are thinking of expensive and risky testosterone replacement program, you may wish to consider supplementing your diet with natural herbal testosterone enhancing pills instead. There are many natural supplements you can take that encourage your body to produce more of your own testosterone.

So the remedies to increase sex drive is to be happy, have more positive emotions, eat and sleep healthily, exercise regularly and supplementing with testosterone enhancers and become the stud that is in you.

Reference by : Chris_Chew

Know the Basic Sex Positions !!!!!

Sex has and probably always will be a taboo subject; however it is entirely natural and is something that the large majority of us will experience at some point in our lives. Obviously each sexual experience that you have will be unique, but there are some basic sexual positions that are accepted as being the 'industry standard'. Some of these will be discussed in this article but first there is a small warning...

...be safe

Everyone seems to go on about this but it is so, so important to wear protection when having sex, particularly with a new partner. With so many STDs and STIs that do not have visible symptoms it is easy to be too trusting and risk infection yourself. Without going on about it, the best advice is simply not to take the risk.

Beginners Sex Positions

There are several sex positions that apparently belong in the beginners' category. This is not to say that these positions are any less enjoyable than those that are said to be 'expert' positions and in fact many of the following positions regularly top polls for people's favourite positions.

The Missionary Position

The missionary position is probably the single most common sexual position used by couples across the globe. It involves the man lying on top of the woman facing down, whilst she faces up towards him. This is a particularly intimate sexual position.

Woman on Top

This position does exactly what it says on the tin. The man lies on his back with the woman on top of him, normally on her knees with her shins touching the ground and facing her partner. Many women enjoy the element of control they get with this position - they are able to dictate the tempo and angle of penetration.

Doggy Style

Borrowed from our canine companions this position involves the woman on all fours with the man penetrating her from behind whilst holding onto her bum or sides. The lack of face to face contact can be an issue for some, but doggy style remains one of the most popular sexual positions.

69er

The 69 or 69er is an oral intercourse position and allows the man to pleasure the woman, whilst she pleasures him at the same time. Either partner can go on top, or you can attempt the position side-on.

A healthy sexual relationship involves experimentation. Talk to your partner about what you are and aren't comfortable doing and what you would like to try. Don't feel pressured into doing something that you are not happy with and above all, enjoy yourself!

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Secrets To A Breast Massage Stimulation Orgasm That Will Have Your Woman Wanting A Lot More Sex!

Guys do not realise that if they spend a lot of time in breast foreplay stimulation, their woman can have a breast orgasm. Most men and women use some form of breast massage in foreplay and pleasure. Breast massage is used to firm the breasts and to check for any health issues, it can also be used for sexual arousal. Many men forget to pay much attention to the breast in sex.

Breast massages orgasms, while common for some woman, have not received attention in books or magazines. Studies have shown that female breast massage will increase the change of a woman having an orgasm.

The breast is the positive pole of woman's sexuality. The positive pole of a man is his penis. The key in foreplay is to stimulate the positive pole of a woman so her heart opens. Then she will be open for her negative pole, which is her vulva, to get wet.

Men rush to the vulva without spending enough time for a woman to get really aroused. Studies show that this takes 20 minutes. Women have erectile tissue around the vulva that fills with blood. This takes at least 20 minutes.

Most Women NEVER get fully aroused.

Most men make love in less than 15 minutes. This means that their lover never gets fully aroused EVER! Men then wonder why their partner turns off sex after a year or so. Then the man discovers that she is having an affair with a man who really takes his time.

SEX KEY: Make Foreplay Last for 30 Minutes!

Adding breast massage is a wonderful way to turn on a woman. I suggest not starting with this area. Start on the less hot zones of your lover's body, like kissing and stroking her all over. The neck is a highly erotic area for most women. Kissing the fingers and toes is one area that most men miss.

How to Start a Breast Massage

One way to start the massage is to just place your palm on her heart area. Just hold and let the heat of your hand stimulate your lover.

When a woman does not have a lover she can do a breast massage orgasm in the privacy of her own home. One can start by first gently pressing your breast from inner nipple to the outer side. The pressure must not be fast or hard. Be very sensual and gentle. Touch yourself for pleasure with slow and gentle strokes.

Breast Massage Stimulation Strokes

One stroke that I love to do is a lifting action. I hold the breast in one hand and gently lift the breast. Sometimes I do this stroke for 5 minutes. Look into your lover's eyes as you do this stroke. See if you can connect the heart energy through he eyes. Next try kneading the breast. Then, for greatest pleasure, rub the breasts with the palm of your hand in a clockwise and anti clockwise pattern.

The use of massage oil can take the massage up to a new level of sensuality and pleasure. Make sure you have warm massage oil.

A sensitive woman can have a breast massage orgasm in about 15 to 20 minutes of breast stimulation. Once she has had an orgasm, she will really want you to penetrate her. Make sure you do not come too fast. Many women can come again and again. Most men stop much too soon. Really make intercourse last for 30 minutes or even hours. You will find that if you do this, your lover will want a lot more sex each week, sometimes much more than you can handle.

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Sex Tips For Guys

 

Clueless whether you're doing it right in the bed room? Skip the porn and start reading women's magazines instead. It is the next best thing to listening in on their girl talk (when they are talking about sex, that is).
Also, skip the macho act. Casanova is way more popular with the ladies than the Incredible Hulk.
Here are some basic tips to be an amazing lover.
Hygiene
It is true that men have a distinct smell that turn women on. These distinct smells carry sex pheromones that attract a mate. Although sex pheromones may be released in sweat, most women do not appreciate a dirty and sweaty man. Yes, male sweat can smell sexy for some women. But just to clarify, it is clean sweat that can smell good... sweat does not remain clean the whole day. Stale sweat is nothing short of disgusting. Take a nice shower and make sure you wash thoroughly down there. Guys have no idea how funky it gets down there if not washed properly.
Don't forget to brush your teeth too.
Manners
As in real life, manners as well as finesse are well appreciated in bed. Make sure you attend to her every need and every body part. Be sensitive to her reactions so you know you are doing it right. Be sensitive to even the little things. For example, during fellatio, unless you are both into rough sex, do not shove your penis roughly in her mouth while holding the sides of her head.
There is a gag reflex at the back of the mouth and it is far from pleasant when it is irritated. Most of the time, when she is giving you oral sex and she looks up with that teary look in her eyes, that is not from pleasure but from the unexpected thrust that you just did.
Do not rush and zero in on her vagina and hasten into intercourse and worst, doze off right after. Make foreplay nice and long because women take longer to climax. And the golden rule, live by the saying: "Ladies First".
Be creative but also realistic
Experimenting is nice and keeps the excitement in the bedroom. It is understandable that you want to try out different positions as well as methods.
When trying out positions, do not keep switching from one position to the next like you are in a sex marathon and you are on a race to try as many positions in the shortest span of time. This can be highly off-putting and women often get turned off by this. If there is something that feels good, stick to it for a while unless she indicates (verbally or through body language) that she is ready to try another one.
If there is something you want to try, like BDSM, make sure you ask her first and that she is comfortable with it especially if you will be incorporating foreign objects.
Lubrication
The more lubrication, the better the experience always is. Try warming or cooling lubricants for an intense experience.
Although women generally appreciate a guy who can hold his orgasm and can go on for a long time, going at it for hours without climaxing can make your (yours and hers) genitals sore and even scratched which makes it burn when you pee. Do not force it and just stop. It is just as well as she may be praying in her mind that you get it over with so you guys can order some Chinese Take-out.
A break, some rest and some food is often the best solution to this problem.

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Tips On Kissing Can Enhance Your Relationship

Looking for ways to fan the flames of desire and add more passion to your relationship? Look no further than tips on kissing.

Kissing is more than just the touching of lips. It's the expression of attraction and desire. It's the starting point of something deeper and more intimate. The perfect kiss can communicate emotions that words can't capture and convey feelings more eloquently than any Romantic poet or Hollywood movie. It can melt your partner's heart, make the body tingle and consume a moment so completely that the rest of the world fades away.

The kiss is the lifeblood of so many sensual moments, whether you're making love, playing with sex toys, engaging in fantasy play or leading up to all of the above. How many men want to be the hero who sweeps his lady off her feet with the ardor of his kisses? And how many women long for that moment when the physical and the emotional merge-and her heart races while her knees go weak?

The art of great kissing isn't only for poets and scriptwriters. By embracing a few tips on kissing you can write your own special moments and experience an intimate connection that expresses both your heartfelt feelings and deepest desires. So why not give these tips a try?

1. Vary your technique. From a gentle brushing of lips to lingering contact that goes on forever... you can be romantic, sweet, sassy or passionate. Different kisses convey different emotions. Experimenting with your technique can replace predictability with the unexpected; adding variety can keep things interesting and exciting.

2. Kiss more than just the lips. An old-fashioned 'hand kiss' can be very sexy, especially if accompanied by the right romantic words. Eyelids, hands, neck, ears or shoulders are perfect places to let your lips sensually explore your partner's hotspots.

3. Use your hands, not just your mouth. When it comes to kissing, your hands can be just as essential as your lips. Caressing the face, rubbing the shoulders, embracing or running your fingers through your partner's hair are intimate ways of making your kisses more passionate, while at the same time conveying the intensity of your feelings and intentions.

4. Use your tongue. With its rich supply of nerves and blood vessels, the tongue is very sensitive, sensual and can deepen the intimacy of your kisses. Use the tip of your tongue to trace your partner's lips, explore inside the mouth, French kiss or flirt with the earlobes. (Some people love this and some people don't-the fun is finding out what your partner loves.) Experiment to find the likes and dislikes and discover how your tongue can be a more effective tool of seduction.

5. Set the stage. A kiss engages all your senses. It's as much about taste and smell as it is about touch. A kiss should taste good. Put sugar or something sweet on your lips, exchange a mint or piece of chocolate, wear flavored lip gloss or trace your partner's mouth with a little wine. Make sure your kiss smells as great as it tastes.

6. Be in the moment. The best kisses happen when both people are comfortable and relaxed. Awkward body positions can be distracting and wreck the mood. So get comfy, then work on the emotional component. Loving words and genuine compliments let your partner know you are right there in the moment, focused on him or her and attuned to his or her response. An intense kiss shows your lover that there's nowhere else you'd rather be.

A kiss is more than the mere meeting of lips. It's a way of expressing emotion, igniting passion and complementing your sexual intimacy. By broadening your technique and experimenting with tips on kissing, you can generate deeper intimacy and achieve, in the words of French writer Guy de Maupassant, a true 'intermingling of hearts.

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